He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly.—Proverbs 14:29
There are verses from the book of Proverbs that emphasize the value of being slow to anger. This is especially important when facing a verbal attack. Quiet listening, however difficult, protects us from speaking rashly and offers the opportunity to ask God for help in responding as Christ would.
A calm, gentle reply can defuse a tense situation, but without taking time to process what was said, few of us will be able to answer wisely. When we are slow to anger, we can gain understanding of the situation and the hidden motives that a hot-tempered person can’t objectively comprehend. The Holy Spirit will provide insight on how to answer in a tense situation.
A calm, gentle type response is unnatural, but that shouldn’t surprise us since the One who modeled it is supernatural. Our priorities need to change if we’re to emulate Jesus. Love and understanding must supersede the need to defend ourselves, and preserving the relationship must replace safeguarding our rights. So be calm in all situations, and let Christ be your defender and protector.