12Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with hearts of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. 13Bear with each other and forgive any complaint you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14And over all these virtues put on love, which is the bond of perfect unity.—Colossians 3:12-14
Resentment will suck satisfaction right out of your soul. Bitterness, which is worse, consumes it. Revenge has a monstrous appetite and makes one start planning how to get back at that person. Then before you realize it, one act of retaliation is never enough. Grudges send us on a downward spiral and the enemy is dancing with glee.
Some people see the path of forgiveness to be impossible. So let’s be realistic. When you forgive someone it does not pardon the offense, excuse the misdeed, or ignore it. Forgiveness is not even necessarily reconciliation. The phrase “forgive and forget” sets an unreachable standard. Painful memories are not like old clothing, easily shed.
Forgiveness is simply the act of changing your attitude and your heart toward the offender; it’s moving from a desire to harm them toward an openness to be at peace. A step in the direction of forgiveness is a decisive step toward your happiness.
God is pleased. You are happy. The enemy is defeated.